Can you do the hustle with passion at 90?

What an eye opener for me this morning. We’re just a few days away from Christmas and if you are like me there is always a lot that flows through your emotions – for me they range from being exhausted and depleted to being downright sad and anxious.

The old year bringing in the new – the joyful spirit of giving to others – the exhilaration of being together with family and friends – and of course the pure joy of celebrating the birth of Christ and all the hope He brings.

Yet, for me, there is always another side of the season.

The emotions of joy are tempered by worldly concerns accompanied by an inward look into my inner-self. Thoughts about the happiness of my wife and I – the happiness of my eight children and their spouses and children – questions about what the future holds for all of us as we embark in new directions – and a desire to make up for all the things I should have done differently over the years. In short, I can’t help but wonder how to become a better husband, father, person, professional and of course a better Christian?

But then just as I begin going down the road of disquiet God steps in and shows His hand. He offers a glimpse of Hope and Joy and what both can look like even if you are a frail 90 year-old living in a nursing home.

You see, my wife and I have a commitment to attend daily Mass. But today she mixed it up a bit and took me to a nursing home operated by Carmelite nuns where just about all the people are in a wheelchair and really old. Yet, one after one they were wheeled in to the beautiful little chapel. Some with their heads slouched low because age has caught up with them, others a bit perkier yet still totally reliant on someone pushing them into the chapel.

As we waited for Mass to begin I whispered to my wife that I didn’t want to become like that (old and in need of so much caring) but my wife began to gently point out the beauty of the situation. What she saw escaped me at first but as she talked to me quietly in our pew the wisdom of her words hit me between the eyes.

My wife was right, although she didn’t actually word it this way; these elderly people have passion and hustle for life and a remarkable faith in God. Here they sit, maybe a former CEO of a major corporation, or a famous celebrity, or a great military officer, or a mother of a large family, or consider the elderly nun sitting in the front row in her habit (she was clearly approaching 100 years old in my opinion). She probably touched thousands, if not millions, of lives during her countless years of service to others.

And here they all sit – dressed with holiday flair, smiling, joyful, and alert while attending Mass in a small chapel at a nursing home in Illinois. By many human accounts you would sit back and say that you don’t want to become that way. And that you can’t imagine being so alone and not needed, or maybe even not wanted – I don’t want to think about how many of these wonderful people don’t even have families that care enough to visit them. On human terms we can only view this scene in a negative light and perhaps even consider it “sad”. Yet, if you look into their eyes you see pure joy and simplicity and a sense of abandonment into those that are serving them.

Just imagine someone that was a professional big-shot always giving direction and orders to subordinates and now, late in life, she has to rely totally, I mean totally, on someone else to help get around, and maybe even for feeding and bathing.

It was inspiring to me. First to reaffirm that life is truly a mystery of epic proportions and that even in old age you can have a passion for life and even a bit of hustle. If these elderly folks didn’t have a dose of each they wouldn’t have been up so early in the morning, dressed, happy and attending Mass – just an impressive site to see and a reminder to me that even though life is fragile, it is a true gift from God to be cherished, nurtured and celebrated.

As we walked out of the building an old and frail woman caught my eye, straightened herself up in her wheelchair and with a big smile, holding her head high, enthusiastically said to my wife and me – “Merry Christmas”.

Wow.

 

The five fundraising lessons I learned from Jack Bauer…

I assume Jack Bauer needs no formal introduction. But for those of you that have never watched the award winning show – Jack is the larger than life figure that single handily rescues the world from complete destruction in a given 24 hour period. He successfully did this over seven TV seasons. Now that the show has been terminated I often wonder who will keep us safe…

Jack oddly enough carries many of the qualities needed for successful fundraising. You may be asking – what the heck does this gun toting, hard driving, single minded torturer of terrorists have in common with fundraisers?

Well let’s see – Tenacity. Adaptability. Messaging. Tactics. Success.

First and foremost the guy has tenacity. He doesn’t give up. He keeps going and driving to the end goal of stopping a nuclear bomb from being detonated without regard for anything else, including his own well-being. I’m not suggesting that you kill yourself in the process of raising funds – but quite frankly, most of us need to gain a higher level of tenacity. We need to focus and drive harder to meet our objectives.

Quitters don’t win… it’s that simple. And in order for us to win we need to be determined to overcome the obstacles in front of us and persevere in our endeavor – regardless of the obstacles.

Secondarily, Jack has an innate ability to adapt to any given situation. At any given point Jack is within inches of adverting disaster yet for some reason the game changes and he has to adapt and readjust to the changing landscape. A failed plan, an unforeseen snafu, efforts sabotaged by those around him – you name it; he’s got to deal with it. But Jack doesn’t let it keep him down. He shakes the set-back off, readjusts, and moves forward. Isn’t this what we do every day in fundraising, especially major donor fundraising? Well, that’s been my experience. Just when you think you are on the right track the donor throws you a curve ball and doesn’t “behave” the way we intended. Okay, fine. Let’s readjust and move on. Don’t let a change of plans, as disruptive as it may be, derail the objective.

Messaging… It’s almost a running joke – but for “24” aficionados there is nothing like hearing Jack say, as only he can – “thousands of lives are at stake, tell me where the bomb is!” or something like that. This refrain is repeated many, many times during the 24 hours. Jack stays on point – there is no question about it.

He is on a singular mission to save thousands, if not millions, of lives. He never forgets this and always reminds those around him of his goal.

We need to do the same thing. Embrace the key message and repeat it over and over again. “Your generous support will help thousands of young people overcome, etc., etc.” – you get the picture. Bottom line – stay on point with clear and compelling messages.

The tactics used by Jack vary for sure – from picking a lock, to hacking a computer, to shooting people, to cutting off a terrorist’s head – he does it all with innovation and skill. It’s often gruesome and pretty over the top – but the remarkable thing is he deploys tactics that work and solve problems. He seems to know how to break through the clutter. He seems to find the unconventional way for solving a conventional problem. We need to do the same.

If a certain tactic doesn’t provide the desired outcome try something else.

We need to be looking at the tactics and methods we use to reach our constituents and explore innovative ways to engage with them. It’s no longer okay or even relevant to use the old tried and true ways of communicating – we need to learn to reach people where they are and with the methods they are most comfortable for them.

And lastly success. Jack does not give up until he is successful. Period. He carries it through. Yes, it was a long, hard road to success but he never, ever waivered from his goal and in the end he reaps the rewards. But like Jack, successful fundraising is a bittersweet victory because there is a price to pay and a new challenge around the next corner. Just when we finished this piece of business we need to move onto the next. There is no rest for the weary. If you want to be successful you need to push yourself to this end.

 

The Dynamic Fundraising Process

The success of any robust and successful fundraising process centers on four basic steps. They hold true for all levels and types of fundraising, but they are particularly essential for any successful capital campaign or major gift program. In many ways fundraising is more of an art than a science – which means you have to use your intuition and common sense rather than some impersonal or overly mechanical.

Although there is a “system” that can be applied it’s more important that the process is genuine, sincere and donor-focused. It must, above all things, focus on the person, who they are and what they are interested in, long before the financial aspects of the process.

In my opinion the best accepted process for successful fundraising is somewhat mechanical by design – but this “mechanical” process can only be effective if we focus on the person and not the wallet. This will help us focus on the relationship and not the transaction. This is an incredibly important distinction because in the new economy and the emerging online culture personalized and customized marketing and fundraising will become the norm.

At the end of the day it’s really more about the relationship we develop than anything else.

So if we keep our fundraising process genuine and personal and focused on the donor as a human being we will be far ahead of our peers who often view the donor as a private ATM machine that just keeps throwing off cash any time it is needed and requested.

The four primary steps in the fundraising process can be boiled down to the following steps:

Identification – Identifying potential donors is the most essential aspect of any fundraising campaign. It is an obvious point yet it isn’t always considered the keystone of the fundraising process; without prospects there can be no solicitation. We may find the major donor prospects within the group of donors we already classify as “major donors” but we need to look far beyond this group; there is often hidden capacity among donors that haven’t yet self identified with a larger gift. Our job is to dig into the other loyal, new and ongoing donors that have demonstrated affinity for the organization and have capacity but haven’t been given the appropriate opportunity to become a major donor. That’s why this step includes a qualification stage which may include comprehensive research and wealth screening of each prospect/donor to determine capacity and propensity.

Cultivation – Cultivation of the identified prospect is the second step in the fundraising process. During this stage the prospective donor is cultivated and nurtured for the potential solicitation. The solicitation might be in a month or two years but either way a well thought out strategy to bring that donor to the actual point of solicitation is critical. A process that is either too fast or too slow will both present problems. Too fast and we might offend the donor; too slow and we might miss an opportunity to a competing organization. This step may require months if not years of relationship building (cultivation) prior to even considering making the approach (solicitation). We can’t get discouraged. It is more similar to farming than anything else. Plant the seeds, cultivate the field, and be patient – but diligent. This doesn’t mean we plant the seeds and step back – no we plant the seeds and like a good farmer we tend to the field with care, interest, concern, and respect for the circumstances surrounding us.

Solicitation – Solicitation of actual major gifts is the single most important part in the fundraising process because it is the culmination of all your hard work cultivating the “fields”. But often this is the most difficult step for the major gift officer because asking for money isn’t easy for many people. But if the cultivation of the field was done properly and the prospect was well prepared the solicitation is that much easier and quite enjoyable. It’s really just the icing on the cake; it’s the bountiful harvest and the tangible fruit of your hard work. At this stage the prospective donor is approached with a specific request for support, usually in the form of financial support, although it could be a request for a gift-in-kind. Typically the solicitation meeting, or series of meetings, is handled by two or more people – one of which is the person that made the introduction. This must be orchestrated very well, very professionally and with a focus on the donor and their particular heart-felt interests. Yes, it’s ultimately about raising support for your cause but you have to connect the donor to the changed-lives in a demonstrable way. In other words you have to demonstrate how the donors support is going to directly impact people in a significant and meaningful way.

Stewardship – Stewarding the donor is critical to building good will and planting the seeds for future gifts. During this stage the donor’s gift is acknowledged and the donor is also regularly informed of the progress of the project and the results that were attained from their individual gift. Donors of all levels need to be stewarded to varying degrees depending on their level of financial commitment and involvement. This area of fundraising is so critical to the long-term success of the organizational and the fundraising program. People are very, very tuned into how they are treated by an organization. No matter how good you are at what you do the donor has heightened expectations regarding how they want to be treated. We can’t overlook this fact. Bottom-line – thank your donors profusely; demonstrate to them how important they are to your organization and in short, make them feel like they are true advocates of your organization.

Engage them for life not one transaction!

What is your experience? Would you add a step or refine a step?

 

Soul Surfer – and Passion and Hustle…

WOW. That’s really all I can say after watching “Soul Surfer” a movie everyone should watch.

I am not entirely sure how much is factual and how much was based on creative license… but either way it is one of the most inspiring and motivational movies I have ever seen. The casting is simply perfect… Helen Hunt and Dennis Quaid – how can you go wrong?

But beyond the casting there are many, many lessons to be learned; not just from the dialogue but from the interactions of family members and friends throughout the movie.

Early in the movie Bethany says, “Surfing is my passion; my way of life; the stoke I get from catching a wave is pure joy”. Wow, what a statement.

Later on in the movie after having her arm removed by a shark her doctor says something along the lines of -

with her heart and will she will go far”.

Again a big WOW – what an observation and testament to Bethany’s passion and hustle for her surfing and commitment to this vocation in life.

Well, in any event… it was interesting for me to see the correlations between this movie, Bethany’s passion for her vocation, and my thoughts on passion and hustle!

If anyone has passion and hustle its Bethany Hamilton. I mean really, she had the passion for surfing before being attack by a shark and she had the same passion after being attacked by a shark (and losing her arm in the process). But what is most remarkable, is that after losing her arm she didn’t lose her passion or her hustle for surfing. What an accomplishment.

I only wish I could have this same commitment! Don’t you?